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3 Don’t waste energy

This section only counts energy and time. It looks at four things: how much attention you can use each day, how fast you react, how many mistakes you make, and how long it takes to get back after an interruption. Most figures are measured directly, from experiments or from tracking a group of people over time. These numbers are not converted into lifespan or mortality. Most items in this section have evidence grade B. That is how this field is; it does not mean the advice fails. Item 19 is about expectations when dealing with police, doctors, and counter clerks; it cites regulations, not experiments, so its grade is C. Item 15 (treat pessimistic thoughts as a symptom) and item 22 (treat “others expect me to be perfect” as a symptom) cite mortality and suicide-risk figures. Their frame differs from the rest of this section; do not compare them side by side.

Items are grouped by theme below, with item numbers in parentheses.

Attention at work: Turn off non-essential notifications (item 1), batch-process messages each day (item 5), block brief interruptions (item 6), do one thing at a time (item 7), use earplugs in open offices (item 12), and do not keep adding weekly work hours for their own sake (item 13).

Sleep and staying up: Keep a fixed wake-up time (item 2), get 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night (item 3), avoid caffeine after 2 p.m. (item 4), no screens for the hour before bed (item 8), go to bed on time (item 9), make no major decisions late at night (item 10), take a 10-minute nap when drowsy in the afternoon (item 11), try cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia first for long-term insomnia (item 26), and get checked for sleep apnea if you snore, stop breathing in sleep, or are sleepy by day (item 27).

Thoughts in the head: Switch to a hands-on task when you keep replaying something (item 14), treat pessimistic thoughts as a symptom (item 15), halve your estimate when you feel you looked foolish (item 21), and treat “others expect me to be perfect” as a symptom (item 22).

Anger and low mood: Leave first when angry (item 17), do a few things first when mood is low (item 18), do not vent anger by punching a bag (item 23), and write what is on your mind for several days in a row (item 24).

People and social media: Learn to decline requests you do not want (item 16), treat police and doctors as people who work by rules (item 19), and set limits on apps that show peers’ feeds (item 20).

Pain in the body: For period pain, take an ibuprofen-type painkiller (item 25).

Items in this section (27)
  1. 3.1 Turn off non-essential notifications and keep your phone out of sight while working
  2. 3.2 Keep a fixed wake-up time, even on weekends
  3. 3.3 Get 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night; do not treat 6 hours as enough
  4. 3.4 Do not touch caffeine after 2 p.m.
  5. 3.5 Batch-process emails and messages at a few fixed times per day
  6. 3.6 When doing tasks that require continuous thinking, keep out even brief interruptions
  7. 3.7 Do one thing at a time — don’t reply to messages while in a meeting
  8. 3.8 Skip glowing screens for one hour before bed; if you read, use a paper book or an e-ink screen with the front light off
  9. 3.9 Go to bed on time; do not stay up for games, short videos, or porn
  10. 3.10 Don’t make major decisions or send important messages late at night
  11. 3.11 When drowsy in the afternoon, take a 10-minute nap — don’t sleep half an hour
  12. 3.12 Using earplugs or finding a quiet room for memory-heavy tasks in open offices
  13. 3.13 Don’t keep adding to your weekly hours: past about 49 hours, each extra hour yields less and less
  14. 3.14 When you notice yourself endlessly replaying a distressing memory, do something hands-on instead
  15. 3.15 Treat thoughts like “things will definitely get worse” as symptoms, not as facts
  16. 3.16 Cut back on draining relationships and learn to say no to unwanted requests
  17. 3.17 When you are angry, leave first, and treat the other person as weather rather than as an enemy
  18. 3.18 When mood is low, do the highest-value moves first: get moving, get more light, sleep on schedule, talk to someone, call 12356
  19. 3.19 Treat police, doctors, and counter clerks as people who work by rules, not as roles: what moves a case is paperwork and deadlines, not emotion
  20. 3.20 Don’t make “how others are doing” a daily habit: set limits on apps that show peers’ updates or turn them off
  21. 3.21 When you feel “everyone saw me make a fool of myself,” cut that estimate in half
  22. 3.22 Treat “others expect me to be perfect” as a symptom, not as a fact
  23. 3.23 When angry, don’t vent by punching a bag or going for a run; first let your body slow down
  24. 3.24 When something is weighing on you, you can write thoughts and feelings down for several days in a row, but do not expect it to cure disease
  25. 3.25 For period pain, take an ibuprofen-type painkiller instead of toughing it out; if pain keeps you from work or school, or three months of medication still does not control it, see a gynecologist
  26. 3.26 For long-term insomnia (three or more nights a week, lasting three months or more), try cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia first; do not start with long-term sleeping pills
  27. 3.27 If you snore loudly, someone has seen you stop breathing in sleep, or you are so sleepy by day you want to sleep while driving, get a sleep study for sleep apnea; for moderate to severe cases, wear a CPAP machine at night

3.1 Turn off non-essential notifications and keep your phone out of sight while working

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence B
In plain terms

Even if you don’t look at or touch your phone when it rings, your performance on attention-related tasks still drops. The drop is roughly the same as when you actually answer calls or send messages. Another scenario: even when the phone sits on the desk and you resist the urge to glance at it, the amount of mental capacity available still decreases. The more dependent a person is on their phone, the greater this drop.

Cost

No cost at all. It takes just a few minutes to adjust the settings, and hardly any willpower is required.

Benefit

Merely receiving a notification — without looking at or interacting with the phone — noticeably impairs performance on attention tasks. The degree of impairment is comparable to actually answering calls or sending messages. These findings come from laboratory studies involving university students. Two additional experiments also show that even when participants successfully refrain from looking at their phone, having it nearby still reduces their available mental resources; the drop is largest among people strongly dependent on their phones.

Notes

All of these results are based on one-off tasks done in a lab setting. No research has examined how these effects accumulate over days or weeks in real-world conditions. For jobs where immediate responsiveness is essential, it may be advisable to allow notifications only from a limited set of contacts.

Sources
  1. Stothart, Mitchum & Yehnert (2015). The attentional cost of receiving a cell phone notification. Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance. https://doi.org/10.1037/xhp0000100
  2. Ward, Duke, Gneezy & Bos (2017). Brain Drain: The Mere Presence of One's Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity. Journal of the Association for Consumer Research. https://doi.org/10.1086/691462

3.2 Keep a fixed wake-up time, even on weekends

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

For the most irregular fifth of people, the body clock runs about 2.5 hours later than for the most regular fifth. That is like living with jet lag all the time. Students with more regular schedules also get better grades.

Cost

No money. On weekends you have to sleep in less; that takes a little willpower.

Benefit

61 university students kept records for 30 days. The least regular fifth had a body clock (circadian rhythm) about 2.5 hours later than the most regular fifth. Specifically, the time melatonin began to rise was 00:08 versus 21:32. The stretch when they felt sleepiest was also about 1.8 hours later. The more regular the schedule, the better academic performance (correlation coefficient r = 0.37).

Notes

This is the only study; the sample is small and there was no grouped control. Researchers used a model to estimate that clock differences mainly come from different daily light exposure. They suggest trying light to adjust, but did not run a trial. So besides a fixed wake-up time, getting outdoors for daylight is an inference from their estimate. How to catch up after an occasional late night is in Section 2, item 38 (after staying up late, catch up the next night): go to bed earlier that night, do not sleep until noon the next day.

Sources

Phillips et al. (2017). Irregular sleep/wake patterns are associated with poorer academic performance and delayed circadian and sleep/wake timing. Scientific Reports. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-017-03171-4

3.3 Get 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night; do not treat 6 hours as enough

  • Money No cost
  • Time Daily
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence A
In plain terms

Two weeks in a row of only 6 hours a night, and brain performance falls to about the level of two full nights with no sleep. The problem is you do not feel it. Self-rated sleepiness rises for the first few days then stops rising; people on 6 hours score as sleepy as people on 4 hours. So the sense that “6 hours is enough for me” is not reliable.

Cost

No money. You need to leave 1 to 2 more hours each day for sleep. Going to bed earlier takes a little willpower.

Benefit

48 healthy adults aged 21 to 38 slept only 6 hours a night for 14 days straight. Their cognitive performance fell cumulatively, to about the level of 2 full nights with no sleep. Self-rated sleepiness rose only in the first few days, then barely rose further. Self-rated sleepiness did not differ between the 6-hour and 4-hour groups. This was a randomized controlled trial (RCT). Separately, short total sleep loss (acute sleep deprivation, no more than 48 hours) had an effect size g = -0.776 on simple attention lapses and g = -0.125 on reasoning accuracy. That part pooled 70 studies.

Notes

The main point is that “I do not feel sleepy” is not proof you have slept enough. People who sleep 6 hours long-term only feel used to it; performance has not caught up. The pooled part is about a full night awake. “Chronic short sleep” is backed by only one randomized controlled trial. How sleep duration links to death risk is counted separately; see Section 2, item 13 (about 7 hours a night): that side uses mortality, and the 7-hour band has the lowest risk.

Sources
  1. Van Dongen, Maislin, Mullington & Dinges (2003). The cumulative cost of additional wakefulness. Sleep. https://doi.org/10.1093/sleep/26.2.117
  2. Lim & Dinges (2010). A meta-analysis of the impact of short-term sleep deprivation on cognitive variables. Psychological Bulletin. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0018883

3.4 Do not touch caffeine after 2 p.m.

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence A
In plain terms

Taking 400 mg of caffeine 6 hours before bed, about three or four cups of coffee, showed up on instruments as at least 1 hour less sleep that night. A sleep diary you write yourself shows no difference at all. A 250 mL cup of coffee (107 mg) has to be finished 8.8 hours or more before bed if it is not to affect sleep. For someone who goes to bed at 11, 2 p.m. is the line.

Cost

No money. People used to afternoon coffee have to hold off; that takes a little willpower.

Benefit

Taking a tablet with 400 mg of caffeine 6 hours before bed, total sleep time measured by instruments was 1.1 to 1.2 hours less than with a placebo tablet. Counting a 250 mL cup at 107 mg, 400 mg is about three or four cups of coffee. The placebo tablet looked the same and contained no caffeine. The sleep diaries participants wrote themselves reported no difference; they could not tell. Pooling several studies: caffeine cut total sleep time by 45 minutes on average. The share of time in bed that was actually sleep (sleep efficiency) fell by 7%. A 250 mL cup of coffee (107 mg) has to be finished 8.8 hours or more before bed if it is not to affect sleep.

Notes

The Drake study was done in only one laboratory. The 400 mg it used is on the high side; it equals drinking a whole day’s ceiling at once. The ceiling is in Section 2, item 26 (three to four cups of coffee). People who metabolize caffeine slowly need an earlier cutoff. What you get back from less caffeine is time asleep, and it stacks with item 3 (7 to 8 hours a night).

Sources
  1. Drake, Roehrs, Shambroom & Roth (2013). Caffeine effects on sleep taken 0, 3, or 6 hours before going to bed. Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine. https://doi.org/10.5664/jcsm.3170
  2. Gardiner et al. (2023). The effect of caffeine on subsequent sleep: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Sleep Medicine Reviews. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.smrv.2023.101764

3.5 Batch-process emails and messages at a few fixed times per day

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

The same group of participants was studied over two weeks. During the week when they limited email checks to just three times per day, their daily stress levels dropped noticeably compared to the unrestricted week — while the total number of emails sent and received stayed the same. Without any limits, people checked their emails an average of 15.5 times per day.

Cost

No monetary cost. However, it takes some time to explain to colleagues how often you’ll be checking messages. It also requires a bit of willpower to resist the urge to check them constantly.

Benefit

In a two-week self-controlled trial involving 124 adults, those who limited email checks to three times daily experienced significantly lower daily stress than when they checked freely (effect size: Cohen’s d = 0.37). The overall volume of emails received and replied to did not differ between the two conditions. Without restrictions, participants checked emails 15.5 times per day on average.

Notes

Only one study has examined this approach, showing a modest effect size. It measured stress levels rather than actual work output. No direct research exists on limiting instant messaging checks; this recommendation is only extrapolated from the email study.

Sources

Kushlev & Dunn (2015). Checking email less frequently reduces stress. Computers in Human Behavior. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2014.11.005

3.6 When doing tasks that require continuous thinking, keep out even brief interruptions

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: Very highEvidence B
In plain terms

Even a brief interruption lasting 2.8 seconds on average doubles the chance of errors in subsequent steps of a sequential task. An interruption of 4.4 seconds triples that error rate. Field observations also show that it takes an average of 25 minutes to return to the interrupted task, with two other tasks squeezed in during that time. People who get interrupted do finish tasks faster, but they report higher levels of stress, frustration, and effort.

Cost

No cost at all. Just close the door, put on headphones, or hang a “Do Not Disturb” sign.

Benefit

On average, a 2.8-second interruption doubles the error rate for sequential tasks, while a 4.4-second interruption triples it. This finding comes from lab experiments. Another study observed 24 office workers (information professionals) in real-world settings. They switched topics every 11 minutes on average, and 57% of work topics were interrupted. Getting back to the interrupted task on the same day took 25 minutes and 26 seconds on average, with 2.26 other tasks added in between. A separate experiment with 48 participants showed that interrupted workers completed tasks faster, but reported higher stress, frustration, effort, and time pressure.

Notes

The field study mentioned above categorized interruptions into two types: those caused by others approaching the worker, and those initiated by the worker themselves. Simply closing the door blocks only the first type of interruption. To handle the second type, combine this tip with item 1 (turn off non-essential notifications) and item 5 (batch-process messages).

Sources
  1. Altmann, Trafton & Hambrick (2014). Momentary interruptions can derail the train of thought. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0030986
  2. Mark, Gonzalez & Harris (2005). No task left behind? Examining the nature of fragmented work. CHI 2005. https://doi.org/10.1145/1054972.1055017
  3. Mark, Gudith & Klocke (2008). The cost of interrupted work: More speed and stress. CHI 2008. https://doi.org/10.1145/1357054.1357072

3.7 Do one thing at a time — don’t reply to messages while in a meeting

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

As soon as you switch tasks, reactions slow and mistakes become more likely. People who often use several kinds of media at once have not trained themselves to do several things at once; they do worse on task-switching tests.

Cost

No cost at all. It does take a bit of willpower to resist replying to messages during a meeting.

Benefit

Switching between tasks clearly slows reaction time and raises the chance of mistakes. This conclusion comes from a review of multiple studies. One lab study involved university students. Those who frequently use several types of media at the same time are known as heavy media multitaskers. They’re more easily distracted by unrelated things and unrelated memories, and they also perform worse on task-switching tests.

Notes

Exactly how much extra effort task-switching requires varies a lot depending on the task, so no single number can be given here. The Ophir study compares people at one single point in time, so it’s hard to tell whether multitasking makes attention worse, or whether people with poorer attention skills simply prefer to multitask.

Sources
  1. Monsell (2003). Task switching. Trends in Cognitive Sciences. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1364-6613(03)00028-7
  2. Ophir, Nass & Wagner (2009). Cognitive control in media multitaskers. PNAS. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.0903620106

3.8 Skip glowing screens for one hour before bed; if you read, use a paper book or an e-ink screen with the front light off

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

Reading a glowing screen before bed, versus a paper book, delays falling asleep by about 10 minutes. Melatonin is suppressed by 55%. The next day’s body clock shifts 1.5 hours or more later; mornings feel sleepier and take longer to clear.

Cost

No money. Putting the phone down for one hour before bed means fighting habit long-term; that takes willpower.

Benefit

In the lab the same people did both conditions in turn (crossover). One was reading an e-book on an iPad before bed, brightness at maximum, about 4 hours, for 5 nights in a row. The other was reading a paper book in the same dim room. Reading the glowing e-book delayed sleep onset by about 10 minutes versus paper (25.7 minutes versus 15.8 minutes). Evening melatonin was suppressed by 55%. The next day’s body clock (circadian rhythm) delayed by 1.5 hours or more; melatonin onset was 22:31 versus 21:01. The next morning they were sleepier and took longer to become fully awake.

Notes

The sample is small; conditions were tightly controlled in a lab. At everyday phone brightness and use time, the effect may be smaller. How much night mode helps was not measured. E-ink was not measured either. An e-ink screen with the front light off, like paper, is read by reflected room light, so it is grouped with paper; that is an inference from this study. An e-ink screen with the front light on is also emitting light; there is no data.

Sources

Chang, Aeschbach, Duffy & Czeisler (2015). Evening use of light-emitting eReaders negatively affects sleep, circadian timing, and next-morning alertness. PNAS. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1418490112

3.9 Go to bed on time; do not stay up for games, short videos, or porn

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence BDisputed
In plain terms

In 2025 Chinese people averaged 6.97 hours of night sleep and fell asleep at 0:10 on average. Among children and teens, those who used a phone or tablet before bed were more than twice as likely to get too little sleep, and 2.7 times as likely to be sleepy by day. Just having the device in the bedroom unused gave similar numbers. So the easiest move is not bringing the phone into the bedroom.

Cost

No money. The hard part is fighting the “one more episode” habit long-term. Keeping the phone out of the bedroom takes the least effort.

Benefit

In 2025 China’s residents averaged 6.97 hours of nighttime sleep, with average sleep onset at 0:10 (Chinese Sleep Research Society). People who used portable devices before bed were about 2.17 times as likely to get insufficient sleep (OR 2.17), about 1.46 times as likely to have poor sleep quality (OR 1.46), and about 2.72 times as likely to be sleepy by day (OR 2.72). Devices only left in the bedroom and not used gave similar numbers, about 1.79, 1.53, and 2.27 times (OR 1.79/1.53/2.27). That part pooled 20 same-time surveys of 125198 children and adolescents. Another same-time survey had 844 adults aged 18 to 94. Those who still used a phone after lights out fell asleep more slowly, spent a lower share of time in bed actually asleep, and were more fatigued by day.

Notes

Disputed: Contested. The cost of staying up late itself is in item 3 of this section (7 to 8 hours a night). As for what porn does to an ordinary person’s energy and cognition, so far no reliable evidence can say whether it is the cause. One analysis pooling several studies held that so-called “porn problems” more often come from a mismatch between a person’s beliefs and their own behavior, not from the content itself. Another study pooled data from 280 men. Viewing time was unrelated to erectile function during sex with a partner. Here the only issue is sleep time it crowds out. The figures 6.97 hours and 0:10 have no press release on the Chinese Sleep Research Society site (checked September 2026). This entry follows a Health News report republished by the Fujian Provincial Health Commission.

Sources
  1. Carter et al. (2016). Association Between Portable Screen-Based Media Device Access or Use and Sleep Outcomes. JAMA Pediatrics. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamapediatrics.2016.2341
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3.10 Don’t make major decisions or send important messages late at night

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

When well slept, people quickly learn to avoid high-risk options. After two nights in a row with no sleep, they keep picking the high-risk ones instead; the older they are, the clearer this is. How much a few hours less sleep matter was not measured directly, but important decisions should still wait until after you wake.

Cost

No cost at all. You simply postpone these tasks until after you’ve woken up.

Benefit

34 healthy participants completed the Iowa Gambling Task after going 49.5 hours without sleep. This task is an experiment that measures risk decision making. When well-rested, they quickly learned to steer clear of high-risk options; after sleep loss, they opted for high-risk choices more often. Older participants showed a stronger response to this effect. This is one experiment, and it is the only study.

Notes

The research focused on the extreme case of two nights of continuous sleep deprivation. There is no direct data on how ordinary people fare after staying awake until 2 a.m. The advice to avoid sending messages late at night is based on the authors’ personal experience (rated as Grade C evidence); it is perfectly fine to send such messages the following day instead.

Sources

Killgore, Balkin & Wesensten (2006). Impaired decision making following 49 h of sleep deprivation. Journal of Sleep Research. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1365-2869.2006.00487.x

3.11 When drowsy in the afternoon, take a 10-minute nap — don’t sleep half an hour

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence B
In plain terms

When the previous night was short, a 10-minute nap lifts alertness right away; some of that effect lasts two and a half hours. A 5-minute nap is basically useless. A 20-minute nap only shows benefit after 35 minutes. After a 30-minute nap you first feel groggy on waking; for that stretch performance is worse than not napping.

Cost

It costs nothing. Just set aside 10 minutes and find a place where you can lie down or put your head down.

Benefit

After a night of insufficient sleep, a 10-minute nap immediately reduces drowsiness, fatigue, and improves energy and mental performance; some of these effects persist beyond 155 minutes. A 5-minute nap yields virtually no benefit, and the advantages of a 20-minute nap appear only after 35 minutes. A 30-minute nap first causes sleep inertia, so performance is actually poorer right after waking, before any improvement occurs.

Notes

Only one laboratory study exists, and its participants were healthy young adults. If you can’t fall asleep, there’s no need to force it; there’s no research showing any benefit from simply lying down with eyes closed for 10 minutes. Naps longer than an hour have been linked to higher mortality and increased risk of coronary heart disease — see Section 2, item 37 (keep naps under 30 minutes).

Sources

Brooks & Lack (2006). A brief afternoon nap following nocturnal sleep restriction: Which nap duration is most recuperative? Sleep. https://doi.org/10.1093/sleep/29.6.831

3.12 Using earplugs or finding a quiet room for memory-heavy tasks in open offices

  • Money Low
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

When background noise rises from 39 dB to 51 dB, people remember fewer words, feel more tired, and are less motivated to work. Watching nature videos with sound during breaks helps restore energy better than continuing to endure office noise.

Cost

Earplugs cost just a few dozen yuan. Booking a quiet meeting room takes some time and effort.

Benefit

Students worked in a simulated open office. When the background noise rose from 39 dB to 51 dB (dB, LAeq), they recalled fewer words, rated themselves as more fatigued, and felt less inclined to keep working. Watching nature videos with sound during breaks restored their energy ratings better than listening only to river sounds or office noise.

Notes

Only one laboratory study exists on this topic. Among all noise types, speech that can be clearly understood has the greatest negative impact on performance. White noise headphones help with this, but they were not tested in this research.

Sources

Jahncke, Hygge, Halin, Green & Dimberg (2011). Open-plan office noise: Cognitive performance and restoration. Journal of Environmental Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jenvp.2011.07.002

3.13 Don’t keep adding to your weekly hours: past about 49 hours, each extra hour yields less and less

  • Money Low
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence B
In plain terms

Records from British munitions factories in World War I show that up to 49 hours a week, the work produced rose in step with the hours worked. Past 49 hours, each extra hour added less and less. A 70-hour week produced almost the same as a 56-hour week, so those extra 14 hours were wasted.

Cost

You might earn less in overtime pay. You may also need to put in effort to negotiate with your supervisor.

Benefit

Data from British munitions factories in World War I demonstrates that output is proportional to working hours up to 49 per week. After 49 hours, the rate of growth slows. Peak output is reached at roughly 63 hours. At 70 hours, output remains essentially the same as at 56 hours, meaning those extra 14 hours are wasted effort.

Notes

These figures come from factories a century ago where most workers were women performing manual labor. This threshold may differ for cognitive work; the authors themselves note that other occupations could have higher or lower limits. What is reliable, though, is the overall trend: beyond a certain point, adding more hours yields almost no extra output. The specific figure of 49 is not reliable.

Sources

Pencavel (2015). The Productivity of Working Hours. The Economic Journal. https://doi.org/10.1111/ecoj.12166

3.14 When you notice yourself endlessly replaying a distressing memory, do something hands-on instead

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

Replaying the same bad episode deepens depression, nails negative thoughts in place, makes problems harder to solve, and makes real action harder. It also wears out people around you who would listen. When you notice you are looping in place, go do something that needs your hands.

Cost

No cost at all. The hard part is first recognizing that you’re stuck in this loop (this is called rumination) – a skill that takes practice.

Benefit

A review of multiple studies shows that repetitive rumination on distressing events worsens depression. This pattern, known as rumination, also strengthens negative thinking and weakens problem-solving abilities. It hampers real-world action and wears out people around you who are willing to listen. It is linked to anxiety, binge eating, alcohol misuse, and self-harm.

Notes

The review gives only a direction, with no numbers. “Doing something else” reflects the author’s own approach. The literature supports one core idea: diverting attention is better than staying trapped in rumination. No research has compared which specific activities work best.

Sources

Nolen-Hoeksema, Wisco & Lyubomirsky (2008). Rethinking Rumination. Perspectives on Psychological Science. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1745-6924.2008.00088.x

3.15 Treat thoughts like “things will definitely get worse” as symptoms, not as facts

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Lifespan
Value: OrdinaryEvidence BDisputed
In plain terms

In a 20-year twin study, each additional step up on a pessimism scale correlated with a roughly 13% higher risk of dying during that period, and a roughly 20% higher risk of dying from cardiovascular disease. Conversely, higher optimism scores did not bring any comparable benefits. Thus, the focus should be on reducing pessimism, not on simply “being more positive.”

Cost

No cost involved. The hard part is viewing such thoughts as symptoms rather than as objective truths.

Benefit

This study followed 2,978 twins aged 50 or older in Australia for an average of 20 years; 1,068 of them died over that time. For each standard deviation increase on the pessimism scale, the relative risk of death rose by about 13% (hazard ratio 1.134). The 95% confidence interval for this figure is 1.065–1.207, with a p-value of 8.85×10⁻⁵. Cardiovascular mortality rose by roughly 20% (hazard ratio 1.196; 95% CI 1.045–1.368; p=0.0093). No link was found between pessimism and cancer mortality. Similarly, higher optimism scores showed no meaningful association with mortality rates.

Notes

Disputed: This finding is contested. It is purely observational, with no assigned groups. Some argue that illness might precede and cause heightened pessimism; the authors counter that if that were true, pessimism should also correlate with cancer mortality. Nevertheless, other unmeasured factors could still be at play. Importantly, optimism does not offer any protective effect, so there is no need to force oneself to “think positively.” What matters is refraining from treating pessimistic expectations as accurate forecasts of the future.

Sources

Whitfield JB, Zhu G, Landers JG, Martin NG (2020). Pessimism is associated with greater all-cause and cardiovascular mortality, but optimism is not protective. Scientific Reports, 10, 12609. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-020-69388-y

3.16 Cut back on draining relationships and learn to say no to unwanted requests

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence C
In plain terms

In a survey of widowed women aged 60 to 89, unpleasant contacts linked to well-being more strongly and more consistently than pleasant ones. So cut first, then add.

Cost

No monetary cost. In the short term, this may cause social friction and possibly lead to losing some relationships. It also takes considerable willpower to actually say no.

Benefit

A survey of 120 widowed women aged 60–89 found that unpleasant interactions showed a stronger and more consistent link to psychological well-being than pleasant ones. By this result, the negative impact of a draining person outweighs the positive effects of a supportive one.

Notes

The study group is quite specific, and the questionnaire was administered only once, so no cause-and-effect sequence can be determined. It measures well-being rather than energy. Placing it in this section is the author’s inference. There is no objective definition of what counts as a “draining” relationship; each person must judge that for themselves.

Sources

Rook (1984). The negative side of social interaction: Impact on psychological well-being. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.46.5.1097

3.17 When you are angry, leave first, and treat the other person as weather rather than as an enemy

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

Looking at what just happened from another angle, or standing in the other person’s place for a moment, both bring the emotion down; the second works better. Simply not showing the emotion also has a little effect. Forcing the feeling down inside, or forcing yourself not to think about the thing, does nothing. People who punished the person who offended them kept turning it over longer afterward; people who did not retaliate moved on faster.

Cost

No money. In the moment you have to hold back from answering, turn around, and walk off, then decide afterward whether to deal with it. That takes a little practice.

Benefit

Pooling 306 sets of experiments for comparison (a meta-analysis): re-explaining what happened from another angle (cognitive reappraisal) had an effect on emotion of d = 0.36. Standing in the other person's place had d = 0.45. Shifting attention had d = 0.27. Holding down the outward show of emotion (not letting it show) worked, d = 0.32. Forcing the feeling down did not work (d = -0.04). Forcing yourself not to think about the thing also did not work (d = -0.12). These figures pool inner feeling, outward expression, and bodily response. The abstract does not give them separately. Three other experiments show that people who punished the offender kept turning the other person over for longer afterward, and people who did not punish moved on faster. People overestimate in advance how good revenge will feel.

Notes

The part that pools many studies measures how strong the emotion is, not energy. The effect is small to medium. The revenge part is only one set of experiments, so the grade is B. The "empty boat" is a fable in the "Mountain Tree" chapter of Zhuangzi: an empty boat bumps you and you do not get angry; you get angry only when someone is in the boat, but the bump is the same bump. That is an analogy, not evidence. If there is a real loss, use the legal path in section 8 and section 9. It is much cheaper than blowing up on the spot.

Sources
  1. Webb TL, Miles E, Sheeran P (2012). Dealing with feeling: A meta-analysis of the effectiveness of strategies derived from the process model of emotion regulation. Psychological Bulletin. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0027600
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3.18 When mood is low, do the highest-value moves first: get moving, get more light, sleep on schedule, talk to someone, call 12356

  • Money No cost
  • Time Hours
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence A
In plain terms

Brisk walking, jogging, yoga, and strength training all ease depression; higher intensity works better. Details are in Section 22, item 6 (when mood is bad, walk or run). Light therapy is strong for seasonal depression and also helps non-seasonal depression. Online self-help cognitive behavioral courses work; when symptoms are heavier, guided versions work better. When you cannot see a way through, call 12356 first.

Cost

No money, or very little. A few brisk walks, jogs, or strength sessions a week. Go outdoors in daylight. Fix the schedule. When you cannot see a way through, make one call.

Benefit

Pooling 218 randomized controlled trials and 14,170 people (network meta-analysis). The comparison group was people doing other activities. Versus them, walking or jogging had an effect size on depression of g = -0.62 (95% confidence interval -0.80 to -0.45). Yoga -0.55, strength training -0.49. Higher intensity worked better. Pooling several light-therapy studies: seasonal depression effect size 0.84 (0.60 to 1.08), non-seasonal 0.53 (0.18 to 0.89). Another analysis pooled individual-patient data across studies. It looked at internet cognitive behavioral therapy (online self-help courses). Guided and unguided both beat controls. For moderate to severe (PHQ-9 above 9), guided was better. 12356 is the national mental-health assistance hotline, open no fewer than 18 hours a day.

Notes

These are adjuncts for mild to moderate depression. Moderate to severe cases and anyone with suicidal thoughts should seek care; call 12356 first (see Section 1, item 25). Exercise trials are mostly small and cannot blind who is exercising the way drug trials do. Light-therapy research only runs to 2003 and samples are small. Those studies used dedicated light boxes, not sunlight. Swapping that for daytime outdoor light is an inference from light therapy. “Sleep on schedule” and “talk to someone” are author experience with no separate citation. Do not treat “get moving” as a demand on someone with depression; ten minutes of walking counts.

Sources
  1. Noetel M 等 (2024). Effect of exercise for depression: systematic review and network meta-analysis of randomised controlled trials. BMJ. https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj-2023-075847
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3.19 Treat police, doctors, and counter clerks as people who work by rules, not as roles: what moves a case is paperwork and deadlines, not emotion

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence C
In plain terms

Police, doctors, and counter clerks are people who work by post rules, bound by paperwork, deadlines, and oversight. How many days a matter should take, and what document you get if it cannot be done, are written in the rules. So take receipts, note deadlines, and appeal through channels; do not try to argue until they agree with you.

Cost

No money. What changes is your expectations and the order of moves. The first time, hold back the urge to “argue until they agree.”

Benefit

Change how you deal with institutions: from “pleading, getting angry, retelling grievances,” to “taking documents, noting deadlines, appealing through channels.” What you save is time spent in repeat talk and rumination. This is a one-time mindset shift, not daily time saved. What you can check against are the deadlines themselves, all written in the files. For public-order cases (治安案件), counting from the day accepted, the handling period is no more than 30 days; for major or complex cases, with approval from the public-security organ one level up, it may extend 30 days. When a case with a complainant is not filed, the notice of non-filing must be delivered within 3 days. The complainant may apply for reconsideration within 7 days; the public-security organ decides within 30 days. If still unsatisfied, apply for review one level up within another 7 days.

Notes

Grade C because the judgment that “many people treat the person behind the window as a role, not as someone at work” has no literature to cite. What can be cited is only the rules half: deadlines, documents, and relief channels are all in writing. Every figure here comes from the two Ministry of Public Security regulations in Section 8, item 39 (procedure after calling the police). Following process does not fix “bad attitude,” and does not guarantee the outcome; it only changes your expectations and first move. Bank tellers and government windows are the same: their actions leave a trail, need review, and errors bring accountability. So keep stubs, ask for receipts, complain through channels; do not guess from “will they cheat me.” Lawful priorities are written in the open; for example emergency care is graded by severity, not first-come-first-served (Section 24, item 7, emergency triage). To thank a doctor who saved you, use a thank-you letter and satisfaction rating; see Section 24, item 11. Wanting to “give something so they try harder” toward people handling a case or enforcing the law is the crime of offering a bribe, and the law expressly sets heavier punishment; see Section 8, item 40. Clear differential treatment is something to complain about and supervise, not an unspoken rule to copy.

Sources
  1. 公安部 (2020). 公安机关办理刑事案件程序规定(公安部令第 159 号修正后,第一百七十一、一百七十八、一百七十九条). http://www.gov.cn/gongbao/content/2020/content_5549884.htm
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3.20 Don’t make “how others are doing” a daily habit: set limits on apps that show peers’ updates or turn them off

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Big
  • Measured in Time
Value: HighEvidence A
In plain terms

People who habitually compare themselves online with people who are doing better tend to have a worse mood and lower self-esteem. People who deactivated Facebook for four weeks had a small rise in well-being, but they also knew somewhat less about current events. People who limited each of three social platforms to 10 minutes a day were less lonely and less depressed after three weeks.

Cost

No money. Setting a limit on an app, or deactivating the account, takes a few minutes each. The hard part is not opening it again afterwards, which means fighting habit over the long term.

Benefit

Pooled results of many studies (meta-analysis): 54 independent samples, 94 effect sizes, N = 36,583, using a three-level random-effects model. The average correlation between upward social comparison online and psychological maladjustment was r = 0.330 (95% CI 0.289–0.370). Split by specific outcome: socially evaluative negative emotions such as fear of being judged 0.438, anxiety 0.382, depression 0.306, lower well-being 0.268, lower self-esteem 0.263. Age, cultural background and year of data collection did not change the strength of this link. Results from long-term follow-up studies were no stronger than those from single-time-point surveys. There was also a randomized controlled trial of 2,743 US Facebook users. Of these, 61% were willing to accept deactivation for less than 102 US dollars. They were randomly assigned to a four-week deactivation group or a control group. For the average participant, deactivation freed up 60 minutes a day. The subjective well-being index rose by 0.09 standard deviations. By component: life satisfaction 0.12, anxiety 0.10, depression 0.09, happiness 0.08. After removing what multiple comparisons can produce by chance, these results still counted. The authors gave a reference point: psychological interventions that make people more positive. Such interventions improve subjective well-being by about +0.34 standard deviations and depression by about -0.23 standard deviations. So this effect is about 25% to 40% of that of a usual psychological intervention. The cost over the same period: the news knowledge index fell by 0.19 standard deviations, and political polarization fell by 0.16 standard deviations. After the experiment ended, the deactivation group still used Facebook 12 minutes a day less than the control group (0.31 standard deviations, a drop of 23%). There was also a randomized controlled trial of 143 undergraduates, randomly split into two groups. One group limited each of Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat to 10 minutes a day; the other used them as usual. After three weeks, loneliness and depression fell clearly in the limited group. In both groups, anxiety and fear of missing out were lower than at the start.

Notes

The correlation half only shows that two things occur together. It cannot be read as one causing the other, and the authors themselves say more long-term follow-up studies are needed. The randomized half can speak to causation, but its participants were Facebook users before the 2018 US midterm elections, so applying it to platforms in China is a stretch. The Hunt study had only 143 undergraduates, and it is the only one of its kind. The effect sizes are all small, so do not expect closing an app to solve a mood problem. What this item aims to stop is the kind of use that looks at how others are doing; contact with family and friends, looking up information and job hunting are not included. If you really cannot hold back, start by turning off push notifications, “people you may know” and homepage recommendations. For the accounting of total screen time, see Section 4, items 15 and 16 (a hard cap on short video, not reading scrolling news). For what to do first when your mood is low, see item 18 in this section (move, get sunlight, sleep on time). For buying things to regain a sense of identity, see Section 6, item 23. For spending more to “move up a notch”, see Section 6, item 24.

Sources
  1. Lei Y, Hu S, Sun Y, Zheng L (2026). "Looking up" linked to feeling down: a meta-analysis of online upward social comparison and psychological maladjustment. Frontiers in Psychology. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2026.1825169
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3.21 When you feel “everyone saw me make a fool of myself,” cut that estimate in half

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

Walk in wearing an awkward T-shirt and you think nearly half the people can tell who is printed on it; actually fewer than a quarter can. Switch to a decent T-shirt and you still overestimate the same way. After a group discussion, people also think their verbal mistakes look more obvious to others than they do, and after a chat they often underestimate how much the other person liked them. So when you feel “everyone saw me look foolish,” it is often only half or less.

Cost

No money. Just ask yourself one extra question when tense: did they really see it?

Benefit

Experiment 1: Participants wore a T-shirt with Barry Manilow’s face and walked into a room with other participants. Wearers estimated on average that 46% of bystanders could correctly name who was on the shirt. Bystanders’ actual correct rate was 23%; the estimate was exactly twice the actual. Subtracting actual from estimate room by room, the average overestimate was 23 percentage points (95% CI 9–38). After dropping the two rooms with only two or three bystanders, it was 27 percentage points (11–43). Experiment 2: Switch to a self-chosen T-shirt the wearer saw as positive. Average estimate 48%, bystanders’ actual correct rate 8%, a sixfold gap. In a footnote the authors note wearers’ estimates were almost the same across both experiments (48% and 46%); the gap was bystander accuracy (8% and 23%). They suspect the main reason is that Experiment 2’s bystander questionnaire was harder, not that a decent shirt is easier to overestimate. Experiment 3: Undergraduates in groups of 3 to 7 discussed an assigned topic for 20 minutes, then wrote a policy proposal together. Right after, each person separately estimated how others in the group would rank everyone; lower rank numbers are better. On “how many verbal mistakes,” self-estimated rank averaged 2.30, others’ actual rank 2.96, difference −0.66 (p < .01). So people think their mistakes look more obvious to others. “Possibly offensive remarks” was the same (2.35 versus 2.90, p < .01); “remarks others would pick on” differed less (2.61 versus 2.82, p < .05). Another series had three settings: strangers paired for talk, new college roommates, and an adult workshop. People systematically underestimated how much the other liked them and how much the other enjoyed the talk. The authors call this the “liking gap.” It shows up in talks of different lengths and lasts months among new roommates.

Notes

Grade B because these are small lab and campus studies. Settings are wearing a shirt, chatting with strangers or roommates, and student group discussion asked right after. There is no direct evidence for “colleagues gossiping” or “a meeting mistake still remembered days later.” The figures only show the direction and rough multiple of overestimate; they are not a coefficient to plug in. Others’ views are not all unimportant. In real evaluation settings — interviews, defenses, assessments, medical reports — the evaluation is real; prepare when you should. What to discount is only the everyday sense that “everyone is watching me”; that part is your own estimation bias.

Sources
  1. Gilovich T, Medvec VH, Savitsky K (2000). The spotlight effect in social judgment: An egocentric bias in estimates of the salience of one's own actions and appearance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 211–222. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.78.2.211
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3.22 Treat “others expect me to be perfect” as a symptom, not as a fact

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Lifespan
Value: OrdinaryEvidence B
In plain terms

People who keep feeling “people around me demand I be perfect, and if I fall short I will be rejected” are more likely to have suicidal thoughts. “I demand perfection of myself” links much more weakly to suicidal thoughts, only about one third as strong as the first. After subtracting thoughts already present, the first feeling still tracks later rises in thoughts, though the size is modest.

Cost

No money. The hard part is treating this thought as something to handle, not as an accurate reading of what others really demand.

Benefit

Pooling several studies (meta-analysis): 45 studies, N = 11747, samples of undergraduates, medical students, community adults, and psychiatric patients, random-effects model. Below are weighted average correlations with suicidal thoughts. Perfectionistic concerns r = .28 (95% CI .24–.32; 42 studies, 7936 people). Perfectionistic concerns is a bundle including socially prescribed perfectionism, concern over mistakes, doubts about actions, and gaps between reality and standards. Socially prescribed perfectionism alone is also r = .28 (.25–.32, 30 studies, 3640 people). Perfectionistic striving r = .10 (.07–.13, 31 studies, 4588 people), a bundle of self-oriented perfectionism and personal standards. Parental criticism r = .20 (.11–.29). Then links to suicide attempts. Perfectionistic concerns r = .12 (.07–.17, 15 studies, 5275 people). Socially prescribed perfectionism r = .19 (.08–.29, 8 studies, 689 people). Then the follow-up part. After subtracting suicidal thoughts present at the start, socially prescribed perfectionism still moved in the same direction as later follow-up suicidal thoughts, modestly. Self-oriented and other-oriented perfectionism showed no link.

Notes

Grade B because most included studies are one-time questionnaires, so sequence is unclear. Correlation strength is moderate (r about .28), explaining only a few percent to about one tenth of the variance. What is measured is suicidal thoughts and attempts, not death itself, so benefit magnitude is logged as small for “surrogate endpoint only.” The authors also say the perfectionistic-concerns and attempt set looks like publication bias. Publication bias means studies with unflattering results were not published. After filling in estimated missing studies, the direction holds. High standards themselves are not the problem, and you need not lower them for that reason. The difference is where the standard comes from, and whether falling short feels like “I as a person am finished.” Like the pessimistic forecasts in item 15 (treat thoughts like “things will get worse” as a symptom), this is something that can be handled as a symptom. For suicidal thoughts, call 12356 first and move lethal means farther away; see Section 1, item 25. What you can do when someone close shows such thoughts is in Section 8, item 15. Depression screening for children is in Section 30, item 8.

Sources

Smith MM, Sherry SB, Chen S, Saklofske DH, Mushquash C, Flett GL, Hewitt PL (2018). The perniciousness of perfectionism: A meta-analytic review of the perfectionism-suicide relationship. Journal of Personality, 86(3), 522–542. https://doi.org/10.1111/jopy.12333

3.23 When angry, don’t vent by punching a bag or going for a run; first let your body slow down

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower Some
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence A
In plain terms

Punching a bag, cycling, or going for a run — ways of venting that amp the body up — generally do not cool anger. Slow breathing, mindfulness, and meditation — ways that settle the body — clearly cut anger and the urge to strike.

Cost

No cost. In the heat of anger, switch to something that slows your heart rate for a few minutes: breathe slowly, sit down, be still. The hard part is that what you most want to do at that moment is exactly to vent.

Benefit

Pooled results of 154 studies (meta-analysis), 184 samples, 10,189 people. Methods that calm the body, such as deep breathing, mindfulness and meditation, reduce anger and aggression. Effect size g = -0.63, 95% CI -0.82 to -0.43. This result was stable across people of different sex, race, age and culture. Methods that raise bodily arousal, such as punching a bag, jogging and cycling, were ineffective overall. Effect size g = -0.02, 95% CI -0.13 to 0.09. The authors conclude that venting anger and going for a run are not effective ways to reduce anger.

Notes

What was measured is anger and aggression, not energy. The measure is recorded as time; that is the author’s own categorization: one fewer argument means one fewer cleanup of the aftermath. For something you can use on the spot, see Section 22, item 8 (cyclic sighing), and item 17 in this section (leave the scene when angry). Running is not useless. Over the long term it helps with low mood; see Section 22, item 6 (when your mood is bad, walk or run). It is just not suited to defusing anger on the spot. In the heat of anger, do not drive, send messages or make decisions. If someone is hitting you, leave first and call the police. What you need to deal with then is not your emotion; see Section 8, item 43 (if you are being abused at home).

Sources

Kjærvik SL, Bushman BJ (2024). A meta-analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2024.102414

3.24 When something is weighing on you, you can write thoughts and feelings down for several days in a row, but do not expect it to cure disease

  • Money No cost
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Small
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence BDisputed
In plain terms

Writing down a bad experience has a small average benefit. Pooled conclusions also disagree; two pooled analyses found no clear effect. It costs almost nothing, so you can try it. When emotional problems are heavy, do not use it instead of seeing a doctor.

Cost

No money. A common study setup is writing 3 to 4 times, 15 to 20 minutes each. Write about something that hurts, and write your deepest thoughts and feelings.

Benefit

One analysis pooled 146 randomized studies (meta-analysis). People wrote or spoke about something important to them. The average effect was positive and significant, but small, effect size r = .075. Another pool took only randomized controlled trials; 30 trials together showed no significant effect on physical or mental health. Sixteen randomized trials in people with cancer and survivors, pooled, were non-significant on psychological, physical, and quality-of-life outcomes. On the psychological side g = 0.04, 95% CI -0.06 to 0.14.

Notes

Disputed: Contested. Support comes from the 146-study pool, with a positive but small effect. Opposition comes from two pools limited to randomized controlled trials, neither finding a significant effect. How many times and how long per session in the Cost line come from the earliest experimental design, noted in the abstract of Mogk’s pool. It is included because it costs almost no money and little time, and one person can do it alone. When you do not want to talk or have no one to talk to, you can use it. What is measured is not energy; calling the frame “time” is the author’s classification. If writing makes you feel worse and worse, stop and call 12356; see Section 1, item 25 (12356).

Sources
  1. Frattaroli J (2006). Experimental disclosure and its moderators: a meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.132.6.823
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3.25 For period pain, take an ibuprofen-type painkiller instead of toughing it out; if pain keeps you from work or school, or three months of medication still does not control it, see a gynecologist

  • Money Low
  • Time Minutes
  • Willpower None
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence A

For Women

In plain terms

For period pain, ibuprofen-type drugs raise the share with clearly less pain from under two in ten to about half. They work better than acetaminophen, with a bit more side effects. If pain keeps you from work or school, hurts deep during sex, or three months of medication still does not control it, see a gynecologist and check for endometriosis. In one ten-country study, average time from first symptoms to diagnosis was 6.7 years.

Cost

A box of ibuprofen costs a dozen or so yuan; take it only on the days it hurts. If you need gynecology, registration and ultrasound cost some money and half a day.

Benefit

A Cochrane systematic review pooled 80 randomized controlled trials and 5820 women with primary dysmenorrhea. Primary dysmenorrhea means period pain with no other disease found. Versus placebo, nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs relieved pain better (OR 4.37, 95% CI 3.76–5.09). Converted, 18% of people on placebo got moderate or better relief, versus 45% to 53% on these drugs. The tradeoff is more side effects (OR 1.29, 1.11–1.51). 10% of people on placebo had side effects, versus 11% to 14% on these drugs. The extras were mainly stomach upset (OR 1.58) and nervous-system reactions (OR 2.74). Versus acetaminophen, these drugs also relieved pain better (OR 1.89, 1.05–3.43), though only 3 trials. Which of these drugs is best showed no difference. The UK NICE guideline (updated 2024) lists situations that should raise suspicion of endometriosis. They are long-term pelvic pain, period pain that affects daily activity and quality of life, and deep pain during or after sex. Also pain on bowel movements during periods, blood in urine or painful urination during periods, and infertility with these symptoms. Girls aged 17 and under are included. The guideline advises a trial of acetaminophen or one of these drugs first, for example 3 months. If pain relief is not enough, refer for further checks. A normal pelvic exam and ultrasound do not rule the disease out. One study surveyed 1418 women who had laparoscopy at 16 hospitals in 10 countries. From first symptoms to surgical diagnosis of endometriosis averaged 6.7 years, mostly lost at the primary-care stage. Women with a diagnosis lost an average of 10.8 hours of work a week, mostly presenteeism with lower efficiency. A Dutch online survey asked 32748 women aged 15 to 45. 13.8% had taken leave for menstruation, averaging 1.3 days a year. 80.7% were at work during periods with lower efficiency, equal to 8.9 days of lost work a year.

Notes

If you are 60 or older, have had stomach bleeding, or take anticoagulants or hormones, ask a doctor before using these drugs. Details are in Section 34, item 3 (ibuprofen-type painkillers). The US ibuprofen label states it can cause serious allergic reactions, more often in people allergic to aspirin, including asthma attacks. If you have asthma, ask a doctor before use. If you might be pregnant, ask a doctor first; after 20 weeks of pregnancy do not take it on your own; see Section 34, item 5 (after 20 weeks of pregnancy). If you cannot take these drugs, switch to acetaminophen; daily ceiling is in Section 34, item 1 (acetaminophen). For period pain, take the drug only on period days. The threshold in Section 34, item 9 (do not take painkillers more than 15 days a month) is about headaches; period-pain days never come close. Grade A because pain relief comes from many randomized trials. The authors rated evidence quality for most comparisons as low, mainly because methods were unclearly reported and 59% of trials were drug-company funded. Benefit set to “medium” is a judgment: the review measured only pain, not fewer days off. In the Dutch survey, loss from menstruation came to about 10 days a year, hours when spread over each week. The endometriosis group were women already going to laparoscopy; that does not mean most people with period pain have this disease. The main beneficiary is you.

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3.26 For long-term insomnia (three or more nights a week, lasting three months or more), try cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia first; do not start with long-term sleeping pills

  • Money Low
  • Time Hours
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence A
In plain terms

After this treatment, falling asleep is about 19 minutes faster on average, and time awake in the night drops about 26 minutes. Effects slowly weaken, but they are still there at 12 months. Online self-help courses work about as well as in-person. Sleeping pills help people aged 60 and over only a little: for every 6 who take them, 1 gets a side effect; for every 13, only 1 sleeps better.

Cost

Doing it at a hospital sleep clinic, psychiatry, or psychology costs registration and treatment fees. Online self-help courses cost much less. A course is usually 6 to 8 weeks; you keep a sleep diary every day. Stimulus control you can start yourself: go to bed only when sleepy; if you cannot sleep, get up. Use the bed only for sleep and sex, get up at the same time every day, and do not nap by day. The hard step is sleep restriction: for the first few weeks you shorten time in bed, so you are sleepier by day.

Benefit

The National Health Commission’s 2020 clinical norms, following the international classification, list the diagnostic points for insomnia disorder. One is trouble falling asleep, easy waking after sleep, or early waking. Two is daytime fatigue, sleepiness, and impaired function. Three is these at least 3 times a week for at least 3 months. Under 3 months is called short-term insomnia disorder. The norms set cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia as first-line. It includes sleep restriction, stimulus control, cognitive therapy, relaxation training, and sleep hygiene — 5 parts — usually one cycle of 6 to 8 weeks. The norms say short-term effects match medication, and long-term outlook is better than medication. They also state sleeping pills generally should not continue past 4 weeks; if continued, reassess monthly. The American College of Physicians 2016 guideline strongly recommends: for adults with chronic insomnia, start with this therapy. If it alone is not enough, then discuss short-term medication with a doctor. One analysis pooled 20 randomized controlled trials and 1162 people (meta-analysis). After treatment, time to fall asleep shortened by 19.03 minutes (95% CI 14.12–23.93). Time awake after falling asleep fell by 26.00 minutes (15.48–36.52). The share of time in bed actually asleep (sleep efficiency) rose by 9.91% (8.09%–11.73%). Total sleep time rose only 7.61 minutes, not statistically significant (−0.51 to 15.74). No study reported adverse outcomes. Another analysis pooled 30 randomized controlled trials on how long effects last. Versus no treatment, improvement in insomnia severity shrank over time. At 3 months g = 0.64, at 6 months 0.40, at 12 months 0.25. Effects weaken gradually, but the authors still see clinical meaning within a year. For online delivery, one analysis pooled 11 randomized controlled trials and 1460 people. All sleep measures improved, effect sizes g from 0.21 to 1.09. The authors say this matches in-person effects; longer courses and more follow-up give larger effects. Another online randomized trial of 1711 people gave the control group only sleep-hygiene materials. Those on digital therapy had large gains in sleep-related quality of life and small gains in daytime physical and mental state. Then sleeping pills. One analysis pooled 24 randomized controlled trials and 2417 people with insomnia aged 60 and over. Each trial used at least 5 nights in a row. Versus placebo, people on pills slept 25.2 minutes more total and woke 0.63 fewer times at night. For every 13 who took pills, 1 had better sleep quality. For every 6 who took pills, 1 had a side effect (NNH 6, 4.7 to 7.1). Memory and thinking side effects were 4.78 times placebo (OR 4.78, 1.47–15.47). Daytime fatigue was 3.82 times (OR 3.82, 1.88–7.80).

Notes

The five stimulus-control points in the Cost line come from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine 2021 guideline. Sleep restriction first shortens time in bed to how long you actually sleep, then adds time back by sleep efficiency. The guideline says it makes you sleepier by day; people who drive or operate machines should use caution. People with manic tendency, uncontrolled epilepsy, or already severe daytime sleepiness should also use caution, preferably with a clinician following. Sleep hygiene alone — schedule, diet, environment talk — does not work as sole treatment; the guideline does not recommend it. A few bad nights are not insomnia disorder. Then first fix wake-up time; see item 2 of this section (fixed wake-up time). Also see item 4 (no caffeine after 2 p.m.) and item 8 (no glowing screens one hour before bed). For snoring, breathing pauses in sleep, or heavy daytime sleepiness, the norms require ruling out sleep apnea first. How to check is in item 27 of this section (sleep apnea). Low mood plus poor sleep is in item 18 of this section (first moves when mood is low). Sleeping pills are prescription drugs; that analysis only looked at people 60 and over on short courses. Benefit set to medium: faster sleep onset plus less night waking add up to about 45 minutes a night, hours over a week. Total sleep length barely changed. The 20-trial paper excluded people with insomnia plus other diseases. Which department to use in China is author experience (grade C); hospitals differ — ask before registering whether they offer this therapy. The main beneficiary is you. Do not expect melatonin to cure long-term insomnia; see Section 6, item 34 (curing long-term insomnia with melatonin).

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3.27 If you snore loudly, someone has seen you stop breathing in sleep, or you are so sleepy by day you want to sleep while driving, get a sleep study for sleep apnea; for moderate to severe cases, wear a CPAP machine at night

  • Money High
  • Time Hours
  • Willpower A lot
  • Benefit Medium
  • Measured in Time
Value: OrdinaryEvidence ADisputed
In plain terms

Sleep apnea means breathing stops or gets shallow in waves during sleep; you wake gasping and are sleepy by day. After CPAP, daytime sleepiness drops clearly, and driving crashes fall by about seven tenths. Trials have not shown it prevents heart disease or lowers death; you wear it to stay awake by day.

Cost

First go to a hospital sleep clinic, pulmonology, or ENT. Diagnosis needs one night of sleep monitoring, in hospital or with a device borrowed for home. If you need a CPAP machine, you generally buy it yourself; that is a substantial cost. The hard part is sticking with it: wearing a mask every night, awkward for the first few weeks, and many people take it off after a few hours.

Benefit

The American Academy of Sleep Medicine 2017 diagnostic guideline lists who is more likely to have moderate to severe disease. Most days very sleepy by day, plus at least two of the next three: one, frequent loud snoring; two, someone has seen you stop breathing, gasp, or choke awake in sleep; three, already diagnosed hypertension. The guideline requires sleep monitoring for diagnosis; questionnaires alone are not enough. Five or more breathing pauses or shallow spells per hour plus symptoms count as the disease. Fifteen or more count whether or not there are symptoms. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine 2019 systematic review pooled 38 randomized controlled trials. Versus no treatment, people on CPAP cut self-rated sleepiness by 2.4 points (95% CI 1.9–2.8). That score is the Epworth Sleepiness Scale, max 24, higher means sleepier. Counting only people who were not sleepy to begin with, 5 trials cut 1.0 point; the authors saw no clinical meaning. The same review pooled 10 before-after treatment studies. After CPAP, crash rate was 0.3 times the pre-treatment rate (RR 0.3, 0.2–0.4), about seven tenths less. A 2010 analysis pooled 9 similar studies, result RR 0.278 (0.22–0.35). It also said daytime sleepiness dropped clearly after one night of use, and simulated driving improved within 2 to 7 days. A 2009 analysis by the same group said untreated patients’ crash risk was roughly 1.21 to 4.89 times others’. Then heart and lifespan. The SAVE trial enrolled 2717 people aged 45 to 75 with moderate to severe disease and coronary disease or prior stroke. After randomization they were followed 3.7 years on average. Cardiovascular events: 17.0% on CPAP, 15.4% without. No difference between groups (HR 1.10, 0.91–1.32). Users averaged only 3.3 hours a night. Their snoring, daytime sleepiness, quality of life, and mood all improved. A 2017 analysis pooled 10 randomized trials and 7266 people. Overall mortality also did not differ (RR 1.13, 0.99–1.29). A 2019 estimate said about 176000000 (1.76亿) people aged 30 to 69 in China have the disease, 23.6%. Of them about 65520000 have moderate to severe disease, 8.8%, the largest count worldwide.

Notes

Disputed: Contested. Whether CPAP prevents heart disease or extends life has not shown up in randomized trials. People in SAVE were mostly not very sleepy and wore it little. But the 2017 analysis split by hours of use and still saw no difference. Crash figures come from before-after comparisons, not randomization; people after treatment may simply have been more careful. China’s case count is extrapolated from one 2005 study of 3648 people; that estimate was funded by a CPAP maker. The US Preventive Services Task Force said in 2022 that screening people without symptoms has unclear benefit and harm. So people who do not snore and are not sleepy by day need not seek testing. Benefit set to medium is a judgment: sleepiness score fell 2.4 points; hours more awake per day were not measured. Which department is author experience (grade C); hospitals differ. If sleepy while driving, stop first; see Section 1, item 9 (stop and rest when sleepy). For long daytime sleeps, see Section 2, item 37 (naps over one hour warrant checking why). Long-term insomnia is item 26 of this section (long-term insomnia). The main beneficiary is you; people in the same car and on the road benefit too.

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